Full disclosure: This article is not going to put humans in the best light. But I'm going to go out on a limb here and openly suspect that you'd rather get laid by gorgeous girls than have your ego stroked, right?Humans are lazy. Incredibly lazy. We're always trying to get as much as we can, with as little effort as possible. This has always been true. Ever since monkeys started walking on their hind legs. Heck, even before that.
One way we're lazy is that we don't like to think. We really don't. That's why our brains have evolved all kind of short cuts. Social proof is one of those short cuts.If you see a crowd of people at some kind of restaurant, you can safely assume that you won't die from food poisoning, or get a bad deal, or have a bad time. Most of our decisions are made like this, whether we like it or not.
Dale Carnegie taught years ago that the simplest way to impress somebody is be impressed by them. He taught that the easiest way to become interesting is to first become interested. How do you do that? This is something that can't be faked. However, people are generally interesting. Learn how to ask open ended questions. These are questions that have to be answered with more than one word."Do you like sushi?" is not an opened ended question, as it can be answered with a simple yes or not.But a question like, "So, what kind of food do you usually like when you're hanging out with your friends?" is a much better question. It requires some thought, and a long answer.
There's two reasons you want long answers. One is that she won't feel defensive, as if you're interrogating her.Two is that her answers will give you more opportunities to ask even more questions, and find out things about her that are generally interesting to you.And when you're talking about things that she likes, and she senses some genuine interest from, she'll naturally start feeling some natural attraction.
First, you'll have to start talking to a girl. Use any opener you can. Just get her talking. Either alone or with her friends.Then start talking about some fun things you did in the past couple of weeks. While you're talking about those events, drop a few "she's" into the conversation. Don't mention a friend or anything before.
If you've got some expensive hobbies, for example, you can covertly slip these into the conversation to show her what an "alpha male" you are. This is a technique taught by many seduction gurus.It works, and it works well. Even if you don't have any expensive hobbies, you can frame your behaviors and hobbies so they "sound" like they're ultra alpha.For example, being a pilot screams of high powered, high valued alpha male with a lot of money. Only brave, confident and rich guys can fly planes, right?
So what if you can't afford a plane, or you can't afford flying lessons? You can still get the benefits by alluding to your "intentions" to become a pilot.For example, let's say she asks you what your hobbies are, and you say something like this:"Well, I like running and cycling, but next spring I've signed up for these flying lessons. After a hundred hours of flight time I'll get my license, then I've got to figure out what kind of plane to get."
Now, just like there's a few girls that like softies, there's a few girls that like jerks. Not really "like" them, but somehow feel attracted to them.Why? They make them feel safe. As jerky as they are, they can at least protect her. If she goes out with a more sensitive guy, she still may feel in danger. That guy may not fight for her.
But that jerk certainly will. Trouble with him is that he's not kind.Kindness is not niceness. Kindness is when you are comfortable in your own skin. You don't need to push people around.In evolutionary psychology, they call this the "dove-hawk" strategy. Friendly and passive until they're in danger, then they destroy everything in their path.Nice guys are always doves. Easy to walk all over. Safe, but not exciting.Jerks are hawks. Always fighting, always getting in people's faces, always ending up in jail.But kind guys are first doves, so long as everybody is polite. But they quickly turn into hawks if they need to. Speak softly and carry a big stick. Iron fist in a velvet glove.
When a girl asks a guy like this, what his hobbies are, he looks in her eyes with extreme confidence, and tells it like it is. Without reservation, without remorse.Video games? Knitting? Playing handball? Building models of WWII fighter planes? Doesn't matter.You appreciate yourself, you appreciate your hobbies, and you tell her about you as if you're letting her in on the greatest thing ever created.And she'll melt right into your arms.
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