How To Keep Him Interested In You

by Deangelo Maddy

It's a well known fact that guys can lose interest in a relationship very quickly. One day everything's fine, and you're being treated like a princess, the next day you're dumped and you didn't even see it coming. Follow these tips on how to keep him interested, and hopefully you'll stop your boyfriend's mind and heart from wandering.On the whole men avoid confrontation like the plague, and the words "we need to talk" make them run for the hills. If you want to know how to keep him interested, avoiding rows is a good way to start. Often men don't realise when they've upset you, and starting an argument about it will just push them away. If they've done something you're not happy with, have a calm conversation about it instead of a row, and make sure you have a kiss and cuddle after to show that everything's ok.

Although men tend to marry women who have the qualities mentioned above, they prefer to do the pursuing at the beginning of the relationship. They thrive on "the thrill of the chase," and lose interest if a woman is too available. To give him the illusion of being the one in pursuit, a woman would be wise to play a bit hard to get at first. Here's how:Don't always pick up the phone on the first ring. Let him wonder where you are and what you are doing.Don't be instantly available when he asks you out. Tell him you'll have to check your calendar. And don't accept the date if you have a conflict.If he texts you or calls, let him wait for an hour or so before you respond. Let him know you are a busy, active woman who has better things to do than sit around waiting for him to call.Do wait for him to ask you out. If you do the asking, you will take the excitement out of the chase.Be a little mysterious and a lot of fun.

What does your boyfriend like to do? The chances are the words sports, cars and films are in there somewhere! Get to know a bit about his favourite sports team and learn something about the cars he likes so you can share his passions with him. Maybe go along to occasional events or games with him, and make the effort to sit through those all action movies he loves. However, don't forget that he likes to do most of these things with the boys, so give him the space to do that while you spend some time with the girls.I'm not suggesting you turn into a porn star overnight, but if you're looking for ideas on how to keep him interested, maintaining a varied sex life is one of the most important. Simply initiating sex from time to time, or leading the way with new positions can be enough. If you're usually a lights off in the bedroom kind of girl, surprising him on the sofa can score you points. If you're looking for something a bit more adventurous, dressing up a little, or light hearted dirty talk can really spice up your sex life.

Another way on how to keep him interested in you is by showing a guy you are confident. Men don't like women who are desperate, sneaky and needy. Men consider these women with such qualities as high maintenance. For most men, these kinds of women are hard to live with and are usually hard to please and build relationship with. And most of the time, they only stay with these kinds of women because they feel obliged or they are being manipulated. Therefore, be sure to make your man realize that you are a confident woman.

Have you ever been accused of being to clingy or smothering? After the discovery phase of a relationship, men generally don't talk too much. It's not that they've lost interest in you it's just that they feel more comfortable being with you or away from you. They go back to watching the game with the guys or attending the weekly poker night again. And please, no inquisitions afterwards. Men feel that they don't have to explain or elaborate on every single thing that they did while you were apart. Not that they don't want to share. They just don't feel l it's important. Trust me, if it were important, they'd share it with you.

In the case of women, our love grows more when we're with our partner. The one thing a woman has to accept is that men deal with things differently but still have practically the same result. When the Roman poet Sextus Propertius first penned the phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder" in his Elegies, he was most probably referring to how men deal with romance. Let him miss you! Another thing: show dependence but not too much though. Most men like the feeling of control or the semblance of it. By showing that you rely on him for security for example means a lot.

And finally, make sure that your date or your man doesn't get bored while the two of you are together. So enjoy your time with him and make him enjoy his time with you. You can do this by learning how to throw jokes every now and then. While it is mostly guys who try to make their women laugh, it will also be very advantageous for you if you are able to make him laugh as well.

Probably one of the more common mistakes (that you don't even realize or won't admit you've been doing) is taking him for granted. Whatever happened to that sexy, hot and interesting woman he fell in love with? Just because you've been together for years doesn't give you the right to put on 20 pounds and go out in jogging pants and an old college sweater. Always try to look good both for yourself and for him.



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